Monthly Archives: September 2009

20 + 1 ways to make others happy

Continuing from my yesterday post,

Let me share with you few tips that you can do to brighten up someone's day


1. Look them in the eyes and say: "You are beautiful"
2. Give a free hug
3. Send them some cute or funny video from youtube
4. Secretly leave them a thank you notes
5. Help them carry something.
6. Buy them breakfast
7. Give compliment publicly
8. Say Thank You
9. Lend a listening ear
10. Just call to ask how they're doing
11. Cook for them
12. Make coffee for them
13. Write good comments on their facebook
14. Say I Love You :)
15. Send a thoughtful sms
16. Be there with them
17. Give them a nice massage
18. Remember their birthday
19. Give them a helping hand
20. Tell a joke


Last but not least, my favorite one:

21. SMILE :)


Your positive smile will surely make someone happy today! :)

Make someone happy today !

Why people do volunteer work?

Some people do it because they find something they are passionate about and want to do something good for others, another probably think that they are very fortunate to live the way they do and want to give something back to society. Or it could even be for personal growth, volunteers often say that the experience has made them a better person.


There are number of different reasons we do charity work, bring flowers to a friend in the hospital, or buy a special gift for someone we love when we're out shopping. And one of the reason is because it makes us happy. Sometimes in fact, being kind and considerate to others actually benefits us more than the people we're helping.


Even if our activities initially starts out as a chore or an obligation, it can become a joy to us, as well as to those who benefit from our effort.
The real happiness consists in making others happy.


Have you done anything that makes someone happy today? :)

Well, even if your answer is NO, it's never too late.


Hopefully after reading this, you can start thinking: "Is there something that I can do to make someone happy?" It doesn't have to be big or spectacular. Even a simple message expressing how much you appreciate someone's friendship can be very powerful.

You cannot always have happiness,
but you can always give happiness.

How to gain back your momentum after a long holiday?

I just logged on to my facebook, and saw that many of my friends' status said something like: "No more holidays, back to work tomorrow"

Hahaha… yeah.. we just ended our long holiday here in Singapore, and sad to say that tomorrow, we have to be back to reality.

I know some of you probably right now are still in a 'holiday mood' and definitely not ready to get back to work tomorrow or start your daily activities.

Well, that's why I decided to give you a few tips that you can use to get back your momentum, so that tomorrow, you will be recharged again and ready to be your best!


Tips #1.
Wake up early ! Jump off your bed and shout out loud "This is going to be my best day!"


Tips #2.
Prepare only the best.
Wear your best clothes, spray your nicest perfume and of course take your time to enjoy your favorite breakfast with your morning coffee.


Tips #3
Be Positive.
On the way to your workplace, surround yourself with positive things and positive people. Listen to your favorite inspirational songs from your ipod, or tune in to your favorite radio station :) And don't forget to SMILE and greet at least 5 person that you meet that morning.


Tips #4
Have a plan.
By now you should already reach your working place and already feel very good. It's time to start your work. Well, before you start doing anything, it is important for you to know what you want to do for a day. You should have a plan (things to do list). If you don't have, then start making one.


Tips #5.
Create a schedule.
This is also important to get you starting. Scheduling a time ensures that you don’t put the activity off because you don’t feel like it or because something comes up.


Tips #6.
Just do it !
Don’t stop to pause and wonder if you really FEEL like doing this today. Coz you know what? You won’t! Just walk out the door, or sit down at the desk, or start doing things that you've already plan to do and already in your schedule (that's why having schedule is important!).
Remember, you need to build your momentum back. And taking action builds the enthusiasm.


Tips #7
Celebrate your day.
Without your realize, you probably already completed most of the things that you've plan today. Congrats! just a little bit more, and that's the end of your first day at work after your holiday.
You are almost there !
Once you've done so, you definitely deserve a little celebration.
Go and have dinner with your loved one, or your friends.


But remember… don't over celebrate and don't sleep to late, because the next day, you have to be at work again :) Taking an MC just after 1 day of working definitely is not advisable :p


Well, that's my tips for you. I hope the 7 tips that I just shared with you will help you gain back your momentum and will help you to make tomorrow your best day.




2 days ago, someone asked me: "If I have some spare cash, what would I want to buy?"
I looked at her and told her my answer, which is TIME.

For me, time is precious, and there never seem to be enough of it.
Ironically, many of people forget its value.

Sometimes time flies just like that without they realise where does it go?
And if you are one of them, hopefully you will appreciate it more after you read this:


Imagine there is a bank that credits your account each morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day.

 What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course!!!! Each of us has such a bank. Its name is TIME.

 Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purpose. It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft. Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day's deposits, the loss is yours.

There is no going back. There is no drawing against the "tomorrow". You must live in the present on today's deposits. Invest it so as to get from it the utmost in health, happiness, and success!

The clock is running. Make the most of today.

· To realize the value of ONE YEAR, ask a student who failed a grade.

· To realize the value of ONE MONTH, ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby.

· To realize the value of ONE WEEK, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper.
· To realize the value of ONE HOUR, ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.
· To realize the value of ONE MINUTE, ask a person who missed the train.
· To realize the value of ONE SECOND, ask a person who just avoided an accident.
· To realize the value of ONE MILLISECOND, ask the person who won a silver medal in the Olympics


Treasure every moment that you have! And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time. And remember that time waits for no one.



And what did I do today?
After my long and busy week I choose to spend all my day today with my precious little angel, Alvernia.
And I loved every single moment of it !



Is your life worth saving ?

A man risked his life by swimming through the high tide to save a young boy being swept out to sea. After the child recovered from the horrible experience, he said to the man, "Thank you for saving my life."

The man looked into the little boy's eyes and said, "That's okay, kid. Just make sure your life was worth saving."



Ask yourself: "Is your life worth saving?"



This is your life. Take the power to choose what you want to do and do it well.

We only live once. But once is enough if we do it right :)



Live your life to the fullest.
Live it with passion
Live it with dignity



When should I give up on my goal and dream ?

I just did my talk in NUS this evening. It was part of my non-profit project that I have, which is called Pay It Forward. It was a wonderful session, and I enjoyed myself sharing my experiences with the students there :)





Not long ago, I received a message in my facebook from one of the student who attended my talk earlier on. He told me that he has been working hard to pursue his dream but he is still far from what he wanted to be. He asked me how can he know when to stop and when to continue doing?

It is actually an interesting questions, why I said interesting?? Because I believe many of us, including myself had probably asked that kind of question to ourselves sometimes.
So I decided to write this blog to answer his interesting question.

If you are wandering what will be my answer? Well… follow this closely..

In my opinion, whether you are not sure about what you do is the correct thing or whether is this the correct choice for you, or whether is this something that will help you in the future, there’s only 3 tips that I want to share with you.



1. Just Take Action first!

It is better to make a wrong decision rather than make no decision. So if you are not sure, you are still doubtful, just go for it first, if not then you wouldn’t know


2. Take Action wholeheartedly

This is important because I believe the quality of your action will determine the quality of your results. There is a huge different in results from someone who really give 100% in whatever that he do, and those people who just doing it for the sake of doing it.
You might think that you already working very hard by working 10-14 hrs per day. But I’m sorry to tell you that working hard is not only determine by how many hrs you worked.


Once you know the first 2 steps, by now you probably will still ask the ultimately question which is when do you give up on one pathway in life and move to another? When do you quit?

This is the time where I’m going to share with you the 3rd key, which is Faith !



3. Have FAITH

I believe in one thing: “Do your best and God will do the rest”
I believe that as long as I’ve done my part, taking action and giving my 100%, I’ll let God lead me to where He want me to be and what He want me to do.

And how would I know that? Well, If this is the ‘right’ thing for me, I'm sure He will make me see progress and growth. He will give me passion towards what I’m doing and He will also give me sense of fulfillment. Somehow I’ll find peace and I just know it.

Similarly, when do I know whether I should give up on one pathway in life and move to another? The answer is simple, when I have an alternative path that will give me more growth, passion and fulfillment.


So, if currently you are pursuing your dream and you don’t think you are going to achieve it, the question of whether or not to quit doesn’t depend on your chance of success. The real question is whether pursuing this dream is causing you to grow? Does this path fill you with passion and enthusiasm? Do you feel alive?

If the path you are on currently is giving you the greatest growth, passion and fulfillment, just continue doing. It doesn’t matter whether you ever reach your destination because success is a journey, not a destination. Sometimes the doing is more important than the outcome.


Change your life, Change your habit !

What is a secret of success?

Well, if there is an answer to that I think the answer will be one word called: HABIT.


Successful people are successful because they form the habits of doing those things that failures don't like to do.

Is it a good news or a bad news? It is definitely a good news ! because forming a good habit actually it is not as difficult as it seems.

We all know that your habits will form your futures. And if you do not deliberately form good habits, unconsciously you will form bad ones. You are the kind of person you are because you have formed the habit of being that kind of person. The only way you can change is through habit.

Maybe you are not even aware of them but if you are not quite living up to your full capabilities, the chances are that bad habit or lack of good habits are slowing you down. If that’s how it is with you, it’s time to change bad habits to good.

When I first started my entrepreneurship journey I was in the sales industry. And I couldn't agree more that having a daily good habit has brought me to be where I am today.


When I was still doing sales, I listed down 5 things that I MUST do daily.


merry riana habit


1. Plan my work – my whole one year work. Then I'll break it down to month, week, and eventually daily work. I will plan exactly how to reach my goal.


2. I must do a sufficient number of sales presentations each day to real prospects.


3. I must have, use regularly, a procedure that produces a sufficient number of real prospects.

4. I must record my activities and results and analyze them regularly in order to learn how to improve them.

5. I must continually upgrade myself. Read and study regularly and systematically and try to keep pace with changes in then business and in human needs.



If you work in sales, I understand that your job definitely requires you to do prospecting, preparation of cases, client servicing, travel, office details, business lunches and dinners (sometimes breakfast too), and many others.

Depending on individual, some of these activities are more enjoyable than others. There is a normal tendency to concentrate on those that are pleasant, but if we don’t get the most from our other activities as well, that one particularly enjoyable duty will not be as profitable as it should be.

I think not only in sales industry, but every other business and every other activity in our lives requires organization. In your own home, for example, you know that your children don’t go to school simply when they feel like it, or when it is convenient for them to do so. They go on schedule.

So, write down a list of good habits that you want to have to replace your old ones. And start doing it today. I know in the beginning it's not going to be easy, but if you really follow thru, your new habits will work wonders for you. I guarantee !


How dependend are you with your handphone ?
This weekend there is a huge IT fair in Singapore.
Actually it is not a once – a – year kind of event. I think every 3-4 months, there's always this event, but what amazed me is that every single time, there are always thousands of people flooding the area. Most sellable items normally are: plasma TV, laptop, printer, digital camera and handphone.
I guess nowdays those gadgets are no longer become a luxurious items, but it is already becoming a necessity. Especially handphone. From primary school students to grandpa and grandma, they all have it.


But how important handphone to you? Find out from the questionnaire below


1. You are hanging out in mall, then you realized that you left your hp at home. What are you thinking?

a. No time to think, straight away you go back to get your hp
b. “Never mind, hopefully nobody call me”
c. “I purposely left it at home, because I scared I will lost it if I bring to mall”


2. How often you received a call in a day?
a. Almost zero
b. 1 – 4 calls
c. More than 5 calls


3. Your ring tone is:

a. Every different person in your handphone, you'll assigned in with different ring tone
b. Current hit song
c. Not important to have a ring tone


4. How normally do you sms:
a. With two hands, so that it is faster
b. With one hand, because the other hand can do other things
c. You type so fast until nobody can notice


5. Have you ever breakup with your boyfriend/girlfriend thru handphone?
a. Yes
b. No
c. Not yet (going to)


6. When do you think is a best time to buy new handphone?
a. When your old handphone is lost or spoilt
b. When there is a new model that is reasonable and it is within your budget
c. Anytime there is a new model, regardless whether you need it or not

7. Have you ever use your handphone as a tools for you to show off ?
a. Of course ! because I always have the latest model
b. Don’t think anyone will still interested with my old-fashioned handphone
c. Only when I just bought it


8. When you hang out with your friend at the café, where do you normally put your handphone?
a. In your pocket. Vibrate mode so that it won’t disturb your conversation
b. Why need to bring handphone when your friends are already with you.
c. Obviously on top of the table. So when someone call, you’ll know immediately (also can show off to your friend about your handphone)


1. a = 3, b = 2, c = 1
2. a = 1, b = 2, c = 3
3. a = 3, b = 2, c = 1
4. a = 1, b = 2, c = 3
5. a = 3, b = 1, c = 2
6. a = 1, b = 2, c = 3
7. a = 3, b = 1, c = 2
8. a = 2, b = 1, c = 3


8 – 12
You think that your handphone disturb you. I know it is a bit annoying when you are in the middle of doing something important, then out of sudden you received a phone call from a stranger. But whether you realize or not, handphone is a really important device, especially during emergency. So don’t treat your handphone as your enemy.

Handphone definitely play and important role in your life. And you manage to balance it well. You use it to help you still be accessible, and at the same time you also still keep your handphone up to date with the current model, and of course all these are done within your budget.

You really crazy about your handphone. To you, handphone is not only a communication device, but also a tool that you can use to show off. And feel good about it. You feel that you must always have the latest model regardless whether you can afford it or not. Actually, if your handphone is still in a good condition, there’s no harm for you to continue using it. And the extra money that you have, you can use it to buy other things.


Whichever your score is, to me as long as you are not using your blackberry as an earrings like the picture below, I think you are still normal :)




Latest News :)
It has been awhile since I updated my blog.

This past few days was extremely busy. I went back to Jakarta last Saturday to do a few projects, which you guys is going to find out very soon :)


One of it was a shoot for Indonesian TV Program. It is a variety show for young teenager called: Planet Remaja (Teenage World) which is an hour program talking about anything that is related to teenager, starting from funky activities, trend fashion, hottest news, etc. I remembered many years back I used to watch that program every saturday afternoon. Never thought that one day I will be taking part inside the program :) I will be doing one of the section, which is called Dear Diary.


Dear Diary is one of the segment in the Planet Remaja Show where teens will ask questions about problem that they are currently facing. And my job is to give them my advice, based on what they shared with me. It could be a BGR (Boyfriend Girlfriend Relationship) problem, lack of self-esteem, no direction, lack of motivation, communication problem between friends, misunderstanding with parents, and many others. I feel very honored to be trusted to shared my opinion and give them my piece of advice. I did a shoot for 6 episodes. It was tiring and FUN at the same time. The crew was very friendly and the producer was very professional and efficient. So do keep a look out, OK :) it will be aired starting from next Sunday, 20th Sept 2009 12noon – 1pm in AnTV, Indonesian channel. If you can't catch it, I'll see whether I'll have the copy of it so that I can post it in youtube :)



3,2,1, Action !

With Fantastic Crew from Anteve and Tiga Production

Fire Walker experience with Anthony Robbins

Some of my friends did the fire-walking experience today, and looking at their photos that they upload in facebook really brings back my memories of my own fire-walking experience 8 years ago…

Yes!! I attended the Unleash The Power Within (UPW) Seminar by Anthony Robbins in 2001. And I did walk on hot coals of 2,000 degrees Fahrenheit. It was an AWESOME and definitely life changing experience for me. It was one of the turning point in my life that brings me to be where I am today.

Initially it wasn't a easy decision for me to go for the event, because the price is not cheap. I paid $1,200 ++ and considering that I haven't work at that time, that amount is definitely a huge amount. But I believe before things changed, I must change first. And the most important thing to change is the mindset ! That's why finally me and my boyfriend (currently husband) went together for the event.


Here's the photo that I had with Tony Robbins


And this one is just after the fire walk experience, day 1.




There were more than 4000 participants attending the event at that time.
But, my question is, how many of them have really changed their life and achieve their success since then?


I'm saying this not to show off or to impress you, but to impress upon you the fact that just attending a seminar only is not a guarantee for success.
To be successful, not only you must get the right knowledge and skills, but also to take massive actions applying all those knowledge and skills in real life!


So, for all my friends who are attending UPW these 4 days, and also for all my other friends who like to attend seminars, read books, listen to audio CDs, etc, I would like to encourage you to IMPLEMENT all that you've learned.


It all starts with a Vision, but without Action, it's nothing.


Like the Bible says, Faith without Works is dead.